HEY PSA IF SOMEONE HAS A BAD HABIT OF APOLOGIZING A LOT TRY AND BE PATIENT AND DONT THREATEN THEM BY SAYING YOU’LL DO [insert bad thing here] IF THEY SAY IM SORRY AGAIN WONT HELP IT’LL JUST MAKE THEM REALLY STRESSED OUT LIKE EVEN MORE THEN THEY WERE AND BASICALLY YOU ARE DOING THE OPPOSITE OF HELPING
Also, saying things like “There’s nothing to apologize about,” or “Stop apologizing so much,” just makes them feel like they’re annoying you and maybe it would be better if you just default to “It’s okay,” or something like that. .x. Basically just something that doesn’t make them feel like they’re doing something wrong.
Although, and this is coming from someone who was (and sometimes still is) one of those people that apologized for everything, people who apologize tend to forget that apologizing is accepting fault in many cases. So when someone says, “There’s nothing to apologize for” or “It’s not your fault,” it’s because there really is no reason for you to be apologizing, and always trying to apologize and accept the fault for something isn’t actually a healthy way to go about life.
Granted, I agree with the whole, “Don’t tell us you’ll do something bad” to try to make us stop, because it just generally doesn’t work overall. But you also can’t expect people who care for you to always let you apologize when there is no reason to. I know from personal experience that it can get you into this bad habit of always feeling like you’re to blame for anything negative happening, and that’s not a healthy state of mind to be in.
I will also add, that one thing that helped me with the apologizing all the time was when my husband would tell me, “It’s not your fault.” That eventually made me realize that a lot of things really weren’t my fault and stop trying to constantly apologize. Granted, I still apologize a lot, but not for every negative thing that happens, and I live happier because of it.